Get disciplined motivation- Realistic Optimism.

When you step in real life, depression is real. Being optimistic is a good quality but not idealistic. Optimism near to realism can make things done, otherwise it will leave you with nothing but regrets.

According to research studies done with people working in hospice, the top 5 wishes the people on deathbed make are:

I wish …

I wish, I hadn’t worked so hard.

I wish, I had stayed in touch with my friends.

I wish, I had let myself be happier

I wish, I had the courage to express my true self.

I wish, I’d lived a life true to my dreams, instead of what others expected of me.

The problem is that we get too motivated by motivational speakers, life stories of successful people that we forget that no one is here to chase a successful personality and be like him. We can take inspiration from one’s life, but we should not struggle to live his/her life. We are born with our own strengths and weaknesses and we must know it before taking any step in our life. Better learn to skip things that are not necessary for our life but only imposed on us.

I am a strong believer of hard work and perseverance but at the same time I believe in disciplined and calculated risks, decisions supported by data and expertise. A motivational speaker can motivate a person in gym for lifting 50 Kg on his first day, but a trainer will not advise the same, better we listen to the trainer. Take advice from those who do, not from those who talk.

You will find this very distracted post with discontinuity of thoughts, I would love to hear from you if you find that small touches that link these concepts, depression, optimism, wishes on deathbed, idealism and motivation.